Why you won’t see me without make-up on Facebook

Remember, if you really want to change the world, it’s gonna cost you something…


A Startling Realization

A Startling Realization

The story linked above concerns contemplating suicide, which I have NEVER given more than the most passing of thoughts. One, I’m too “cowardly”; two, I could never do that to my family (I’ve had at least one family member who did, and it’s still devastating over 20 years later); and three, I’m one of those people who has to stay to the end of the movie, no matter how bad it is. 🙂 A friend sent the story to me after I told the following tale on Facebook, and it touched me deeply.

Yesterday, I went for a haircut. I have an interview, for a JOB, today, and wanted to look nice for it. I’ve been letting my hair grow, basically because one of my best friends dared me to. It’s been short, REALLY short, for over 10 years and I thought, “Oh, why not? If I don’t like it, I can always cut it off.” But it was at that stage where it looked less like a conscious decision and more like a fashion faux-pas. So, I made an appointment and had it trimmed.

When I walked into the shop and got settled in at my hairdresser’s station, something odd and a little bit wonderful happened. My hairdresser, whom I’ve been going to for 10 years or so, said to me, “You haven’t been in in FOREVER! I was getting worried about you!” The last time I’d been in, apparently, was just before my last surgery, the one where I got new nipples. It was outpatient surgery, not a huge deal (except to the extent that ALL surgery is a big deal), and then I made the decision to let my hair grow. Well, I hadn’t told HER that, and all she knew was that I had surgery and then she didn’t see me for a couple of months. She was concerned, about ME.

I tend to think that I go through life basically invisibly, no one really noticing my passage. But Kelly noticed. She CARED. And she worried about me. That’s a very humbling thing, and it made me realize that maybe I’m more visible than I think. Except for when I become “invisible” for a time. And people notice. Thank you, Kelly, for that revelation.

The One Thing Christians Should Stop Saying

I’ve been unemployed for nearly two years now. I’ve had cancer, and a 13-hour surgery to get rid of it. I can’t pay my rent or my bills without help. But through it all, I keep coming back to these three words. I am blessed.

The Accidental Missionary

*Writers note:  After reading your comments, I have been moved to revise the following piece.  In a post where the main point is to encourage others to be aware of how our choice of words can get in the way of conveying our true intent, I realize the irony that my choosing to refer to my lack of understanding of God’s purpose as “dumb luck” caused some folks to miss the meaning of the post itself.  Silly me.  While people may still disagree, I think this slightly revised version better captures my honest intent.

I was on the phone with a good friend the other day.  After covering important topics, like disparaging each other’s mothers and retelling semi-factual tales from our college days, our conversation turned to the mundane.

“So, how’s work going?” he asked.

For those of you who don’t know, I make money by teaching leadership skills and…

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Lutheran Rosary? Anglican Rosary?

One of the many creative things I do is make jewelry and rosaries, both Catholic and Anglican. (My etsy site is https://www.etsy.com/shop/debiwarforddesigns, if you want to have a look.) This is an interesting way to use the Anglican Rosary during Lent.

The Black Cordelias

Are either of these devotions

  1. Used at the parish level
  2. Commonly known to Lutherans or Anglicans?
    Sometimes known as the “Anglican rosary,” “Christian prayer beads,” or “ecumenical prayer beads,” Anglican prayer beads are a loop of strung beads which Anglicans and other Christians use as a focus for prayer. Anglican prayer beads were developed in the mid-1980s by Episcopalians participating in a study group dealing with methods of prayer. SOURCE


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Under the Red Dress

Under the Red Dress

NOTE: NUDE IMAGES. This article speaks to me, especially, because I’ve had some of the same procedures as Beth. Fortunately, even though I’m on Medicaid, I have one of the best reconstructive surgeons in Kentucky and my scars are not quite as bad as this. But they are there. And they are there for more women than you might think.

Pancreatic Cancer Action Campaign: I Wish I Had Breast Cancer

Thanks to Swoosieque at Cancer Is Not Pink for sharing this.


Congratulations, Pancreatic Cancer Action.

Your brilliant marketing plan is working. It was a stroke of genius to have Tube ads and YouTube videos of people saying “I wish I had testicular cancer” and “I wish I had breast cancer.”

The UK-based  Pancreatic Cancer Action’s Ali Stunt  was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer age 41 in 2007.  Upon learning the disease has a 3% chance of survival and an average life expectancy of just months, she found herself  wishing she had  a cancer with a  better chance of survival. “In fact the cancer I personally wished I had was breast,” Stunt writes. “[My friend with breast cancer] was telling me how grueling her treatment was and how difficult it was to cope with the diagnosis. While I was sympathetic…I couldn’t help but think every now and then, ‘it’s alright for you, you have an 85% chance that you will…

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Liebster Award

ImageSo, Swoosieque of Cancer Isn’t Pink has nominated me for a Liebster Award. No, I don’t know who Liebster is, or exactly why s/he’s giving out awards, but I’m honored all the same. At least someone is reading this mess I haphazardly put up from time to time.

The rules are simple enough:

1. Each nominee must link back the person who nominated them.
2. Answer the 10 questions which are given to you by the nominator.
3. Nominate 10 other bloggers for this award who have less than 200 followers.
4. Create 10 questions for your nominees to answer.
5. Let the nominees know that they have been nominated by going to their blog and notifying them.

Of course, this means finding 10 blogs to nominate. I must admit that I’m only recently back in the blogosphere. Back in the day, I had a blog with lots (for me) of followers, and a whole network of blogs I would read each day. But then a relative got offended at something I said, and didn’t talk to me for a number of years. Only when “the cancer” came did they try to reestablish a relationship. Anyway, I pretty much connect on Facebook these days, and don’t read blogs.

Also, it means thinking up 10 interesting questions to ask. I will likely recycle some of the excellent questions I was asked, or some of the ones Swoosieque was asked…

So, here are Swoosieque’s questions for me:

1) Who is your favorite superhero/heroine?

He’s not *technically* a superhero, but I’m gonna have to go with The Doctor, you know, Doctor Who…

2) Are you a dog or a cat person?

I like both, and have had both. I’m not allowed pets where I live currently, so I don’t have either right now. Someday, I’d like to live where I can have a cat, as they are more self-sufficient and easier to care for.

3) Are you a healthy eater?

Probably not. These days, I’m on the “poor people diet”, so I basically eat whatever’s at hand. “Healthy” is relative when it comes to eating, I think, and I try to eat mindfully.

4) Have you ever subscribed to a printed newspaper?

Subscribed, no, but I used to get the Sunday paper every week. I had to stop when the world started making me crazy.

5) How often do you go shopping during a week?

Once or twice. I live on the third floor, and my core muscles are still not what they used to be, so I only get what I can carry up the stairs.

6) Do you have a favorite cable news channel, if so, what is it?

I haven’t had cable in about 18 years. If I could have one cable channel, it would be BBC America. They do news, don’t they?

7) Will you plant a vegetable garden this year?

Unfortunately, in a 3rd-floor apartment, there is little room for growing veggies. And I have the most brown of thumbs. Giving me a houseplant is cruel and unusual punishment–for the plant.

8) Who is your favorite author?

Favorite to read: Diana Gabaldon. I’ve read her Outlander series multiple times, and it never gets old. Those characters are like old friends by now.

Favorite to work for (I design book covers): Hallee Bridgeman. She’s prolific, so I always have something cooking, and she and her husband Gregg are a joy to work with.

9) How often do you update your blog?

Not often enough. I had started out with the idea that I would completely chronicle this journey, detailing each new step. But that just hasn’t happened. I may be too used to the snappy updates on Facebook, but life just seems to get in the way.

10)Do you take photographs more often from a camera or from your smartphone?

Part of my “thing” as a graphic designer is being a bit of a photographer, so I have fairly nice equipment, not up to the level that I’d like, but nice and it gets the job done. My iPhone takes lovely photos, much better than I’d anticipated. I used to lug the big camera around anywhere I thought there might be photo ops, but rely more on the phone these days. Short answer: depends on the purpose of the shoot.

My nominations, in no particular order:

1. Building on Mead Mountain

2. Pickling Fireflies

3. I Just Work Here

4. Learning From The Saints

5. The Damn Dirty RINO

6. The Perks of Having Cancer!

7. Zombie Mommy’s Guide to Survival

8. The Table

9. Apockylypse

10. That Winsome Girl

Now, on to my questions:

1. If you could vacation anywhere in the world, and money was not an issue, where would you go and why?

2. If you had a time machine, and could go to any time, past, present, or future, when would you go and why?

3. Do you have any phobias?

4. Who is your favorite author?

5. Who is your favorite artist?

6. Where is your favorite place to spend time with friends?

7. What makes you weep with laughter?

8. What is the first thing that you notice about someone that makes you want to know them better?

9. What skill that you lack, do you most wish you had?

10. Do you like to cook, and is there a favorite dish you like to make?